Stay-At-Home Dad Doesn't Cook, Clean, or Parent

BACKSTORY

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Firstly, this article is in reference to a video done where a husband writes to explain that he is a stay-at-home dad to a six year old son. His wife does all of the working, cleaning, cooking, and all the child rearing when home. He claims that "I am the prize" to his wife and that if "it wasn't for [him] she wouldn't have a baby" that she's wanted for so long in the first place. He claims that since he was responsible for getting her pregnant, his wife should be grateful to him and be happy that he's stayed around at all. He is also considering moving his wife and child to a new state, where she will not know anyone, simply because: (1) she has a co-worker telling her that she does not need a husband like him and (2) he wants to try to make her totally dependent upon him for watching their son. Read on for the opinion that most will probably have and want to say of this stay-at-home dad.

OPINION

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If you are a stay at home Dad and believe because you are the man of the house that you are special you need to re-evaluate your priorities, your self-worth, and take a look in the mirror and realize that the lady in your life is better off without you. If the only thing you do is watch the one school-aged child you have, you are utterly useless. I am not trying to talk down on the role of a stay-at-home parent. The job of raising children is a very important one. So, when your wife comes home, she is having to cook, clean, and tend to the child because you are too lazy to do these jobs. What are you there for? If anything, you are adding to her burden and causing more stress in her life.

The fact that you believe that you are a catch because you got her pregnant is nothing special. If anything, she is the catch because you are essentially another child in the household that she has to take care of. You should feel ashamed, not proud. You should do her a favor and move back in the basement of your parents house. But my guess is they would not let you without making you cook, clean, and act like a responsible adult. Better yet, they would also force you get a job to help pay bills and to earn your keep, being that you are a grown man living at home.

There will come a time when your wife will get tired of carrying the burden of taking care of you and your child. She will demand that you get a job or she is leaving. Stop being a bum, clean the house, cook, and hold your end of the bargain if you are not going to work. If that is too much for you, go out and get a job. Try becoming an adult to help her with the financial load in the household. If you cooked, cleaned, and did the things that make her life easier there would be justification for you being a stay-at-home husband. But based on his words, he is useless.